Nap time and toddlers

After the last couple weeks I've been researching naps in toddlers, I mean my daughter has always been a great napper but lately she just wont have it. She doesn't fuss, cry, or even get mad that I lay her down, as a matter of fact it is the opposite she asks to and says she is tired but just sits in her bed and plays. This had me torn, was she ready to stop napping or should I keep encouraging them despite the not sleeping.

Since this has been on my plate of the "everyday mother" tasks lately I thought I'd share my thoughts and research in hopes to help some of you with your non-napper.

While doing some research I found this Web MD guide to napping for toddlers and it has many great points. Some I found even more so encouraging was the "You can't force anyone to take a nap, but you can create the environment for sleep," especially with my daughter seemingly easing out of a nap lately this was nice to see. 

As I mentioned before, she lately just wont seem to sleep. BUT, a major point I want to bring out is probably what is most important in this post. See I noticed her not sleeping but if I don't lay her down she is cranky by the evening. She is 29mo old and having a 1 year old son who is on a 2-3 hour nap each afternoon from 2:30-5 or 5:30 I REALLY enjoy their naps which has been for several months now same time, around the same length give or take a little. It gives me cleaning time, dinner prep time or my favorite... my own personal chill time. YAY! Now, you may laugh or think it's silly but if you are a stay at home mommy as well you know that this time can be crucial to your own well being and sanity. Without a doubt being a mom is the most amazing, rewarding, blessed job I have ever had and ever wish to have. You just can't get any better than this. So all of that brings me back to the major part o this blog, if your toddler all of the sudden stops taking a nap, staying in the routine since they are used to the laying down portion is good. Giving them the regular routine and letting them maybe have a few toys that you feel safe leaving in the bed with them (i.e. stuffed animals without the marble eyes, soft books etc.) and let them lay and play quietly.  

This next article is also one I found helpful. This quote ""If your child is refusing to nap because she says she's not sleepy, make sure she still gets some quiet time," says Claire Lerner, L.C.S.W., a child-development specialist at Zero To Three, a Washington, D.C., organization that promotes the health and welfare of young children." is something that helped me make the decision to continue the "quiet time" with my Annabelle. Also, to my surprise when I leave her in there despite her being awake and playing (all quietly) she will eventually fall asleep and get a short nap. With this quiet time I have noticed some great improvements, she gets her rest even though she isn't sleeping the entire time, if any, and I still get some down time as well. Allowing her to have that time she is happy and her normal bubbly self in the evenings even though she isn't napping like she used to. 

All children are different, and many toddlers are so incredibly adamant on NOT napping or sleeping, I have been quite blessed to never have a huge problem with this. Aside from the original getting over the letting her cry it out sleeping in her own room that I had a harder time with than her, she has been great at night and naps. My son does wonderful as well. That being said, I am not naive enough to think that going on 3 years old the naps aren't soon going to become a thing of the past for her, but in my opinion the rest she gets from having down time and quiet time in her room with a few baby dolls and soft books is the perfect transition from her every day naps to the big girl she is becoming.  

Never think your tot isn't a normal child if they are ready to not nap sooner than others, just make sure they are ready and not just resistant. Our schedule is our schedule, it works great both because of our daily routine and my sons sleep habits as well but that doesn't mean that it will be your schedule. When you decide what is right for you and your little one I hope these articles and this post that helped me in some decision making will also help you either as the knowledge they provide or reassurance to what you already considered. Just remember, if your toddler is starting to not sleep as much as they had for naps, the quiet time is a great transition and help into easing them into going the whole day without sleep and you may be surprised at their drifting off to sleep anyhow.

Enjoy your little one, the little things they do even when they drive you crazy, the time and days go so fast. These are the moments to hold onto in your hearts forever!

My little angel pretend napping while we were playing in her room.

My weight loss journey... and INSANITY

Wanted to share something for those who may be considering a work out plan, routine or however you would like to call it. After having 2 babies 12months apart (yes I know some of you are thinking I'm crazy and that's fine but I count myself VERY blessed) I needed to lose weight. When I say I needed to lose weight I don't mean 10 or 15 pounds I needed to lose like 55 to be where I was happy. Doctors didn't tell me to but there was no better time to get rid of the weight I had gained both following a miscarriage, the small period of depression afterwards and 2 following pregnancies. My body had left, and when I say that I mean I let it go, after the miscarriage I didn't really care about my body and my first pregnancy I ate ALL the time. Now, with my second pregnancy, my son, I didn't gain but about 15lbs which was right at the edge of not enough, they were telling me to try to gain which was a whole new territory for me lol. Both pregnancies ended in bed rest, my second was 12 LONG weeks of it and I was going crazy wanting to just go for a walk, something, not to mention I was so heartbroken that I couldn't be the "mom" my still baby girl (under 1) needed me to be. Long story short, my son was delivered via emergency c-section at 33 weeks so this was a time of worry and concern and I must say such a hard time watching him and leaving him in the NICU for a month straight hooked up to machines helping him breath and so on (this is a long story and so I'll skip the details and get back to the weight loss part). This threw another excuse up there for me to gain weight. At this point though, I was stressed passed the "don't know what to do" stage and so this time I took a little more control, for some reason I tend to do better under pressure in stead of the usual opposite. I started dieting the normal 6 weeks after delivery and following the release from my surgery I started workouts slowly. Starting with doing allot of the elliptical because that's something I enjoy (and I had one at home) to doing some home work out videos and things along those lines... A stay at home mom with 2 kids ages 2 and infant doesn't really leave time for gym's or what not so this was all on me, I had to figure out a way to do it from my living room.

I did several workout videos until they became easy (and I don't mean easy as in they didn't work just felt like I wasn't pushing myself anymore). Then there came INSANITY, my lovely husband saw a commercial and told me about some people at work he heard talking about it so I looked it up, and some times I wish he never mentioned it but other times (after I'm done lol) I LOVE IT! It is hard, and most definitely not for beginners as it says several times too but it is worth it! Never thought I would be able to even hang in there with it but I did, even had to get a rag to wipe sweat while I was doing it and I drank SO much water. Even purchased a heart rate monitor. But, again, it is WORTH IT! This was not the end of my weight loss but I can guarantee you I wouldn't be anywhere close without it. Within about 6 months (including the Insanity time period) I lost over 30lbs. I was so incredibly proud of myself, my determination, motivation, everything that helped me reach that point. Then, seemingly like one thing after another we had some life changes and I let myself get side tracked... blah blah blah, nothing that I couldn't have pushed thru had I worked even harder, but I didn't. 

Now, if you remember from the beginning, I needed to lose 55lbs and I had only completed 30... So, I am now feeling as if I'm starting over, which I'm not but it feels like that because I stopped for several months. Just a few days ago I started back with Insanity, not without my doubts creeping back up but I started. I am not a quitter and I WILL finish this goal. I have to lose this weight and FINALLY be able to say I am where I want to be not where anyone else thinks I'm good at but where I can look at myself in the mirror and feel confident about what I see. Never had a perfect body, but it was mine and I want it back! :)

I write all this now to hopefully encourage some of you who are considering a weight loss journey beginning or trying to find the motivation to NOT quit! DON'T, if your thinking about quitting before you reach your goal, just don't, I can tell you from experience you will not be satisfied until you reach your goal. However, never set an unreasonable or unhealthy goal for yourself, evaluate it, make it something that makes sense both for your health and for your confidence in appearance. And if reaching your goal compromises your health, then yes, stop and reevaluate! Health should always be first, do not compromise your health to reach a goal that is not right for you or to be skinnier. Being skinny isn't the goal, being healthy and confident is. Make sure you do that, I cannot stress enough that your health needs to come first, don't compromise that and as insanity suggests, seek medical advice before starting a routine as vigorous as it is.